We can be proud of ourselves as we are, for just being ourselves, in a world that doesn’t yet understand us.
All in Personal
My Truth, My Pride as a Demisexual
I am demisexual. For me, my sexual attraction appears after I connect emotionally with another person and I trust they won’t mock me, my body, or my queerness.
The Importance of Not Drowning
You realize that you have hated yourself for years, because you wanted to kiss her forehead and make her hot chocolate late at night. The absurdity of it is crushing you hard.
The Day I Learned I Wasn’t Broken: On Finding Asexuality and Reclaiming my Narrative
I assumed that any partner I might find would expect sex from me, and since I wasn’t willing to do that, it felt like it would be ‘leading someone on’ if I tried to date.
Find the Right Person
Maybe you’ll find the right person…” “Um, I don’t know. I just told you I’m not into that.
"You're Such a Waste": Too Attractive to be Asexual
The first time I was told I couldn’t be asexual was because it would be a waste of my pretty face and nice body.
To Be The One You Love
The way I experience love is meaningful, whole and enough. But maybe this is what they mean when they say sometimes love isn’t enough.
Correcting Father Martin
“Asexuality isn’t a focus of the book, but to have the word there in black and white, however small, is a powerful, joyful thing.”
The Asexual Agenda
Sexuality is weird and complicated both with and without an A preceding it, but sometimes labels help.
Age of Discovery
…the pieces all fall into place and you can’t imagine ever not knowing what now seems like the most obvious thing in the world: you’re asexual.
From Dissonance to Understanding
I look forward to the day when I feel more comfortable saying the words out loud: I’m asexual.
Existing and Defying Stereotypes as an A-spec Disabled Person
It’s something that is often assumed, and not often discussed: the stereotype that people with disabilities do not have sex or have conventional relationships.
Words
I’m so much more complicated than our neat, simple and tidy words can describe, and maybe we all are.
By Any Other Name
You’re asexual. It’s more complicated than that, but it is something that finally feels yours.
Cake and Ice Cream
“Let's say there's a kind of dessert that's everyone's favorite but yours.“
Coming Out (Again)
Not wanting sex or possibly never having it doesn’t make me or anyone else less than or broken.
"Bi Ace... is that a thing?"
I’m more asexual than bisexual, but that’s only because so many conversations end up revolving around sex.
Asexuality and Me
On the internet, many of the asexuals I’ve come across have been white. And while I appreciate that they are out there, it’s hard to relate to them. A white asexual person will never understand my struggle as a black asexual person.
"Meaningless Sex"
For me, having sex never completes me. On the contrary, it usually makes me feel worthless, even when I’ve had sex consensually.
On Being Asexual and Kinky
But… how could I be asexual and a fetishist? Aren’t those two things completely in conflict with one another?